Below is one chapter from my new e-book that you can find on Amazon
Holidays, rituals, routine
We are what we repeatedly do
Ten-year-old “G” with his mother came to my office for the first time. The family was looking for a doctor who would help them solve an enduring problem: the episodes of vomiting over the last few years.
Situation was simplified by the fact that the child had seen various specialists; the experts had made the necessary examinations to rule out possible diseases, so I didn’t have to think about all that. On the other hand, no one had been able to explain the disease, and they came to me with the hope that I was more skilled professionally than the others.
I could not disappoint.
We began to sort through things, but soon came to a dead end, since there were no other symptoms. We discussed the circumstances of the incidents. I will not burden my readers with the details. Let me just say what we found. The boy would vomit when his regular daily routine was disrupted: when going to sleep late, when on vacation, and when there were guests over at the house.
At first, the mother was incredulous, but the more she thought about the episodes, the more convinced she became of the correctness of our conclusions. We agreed on a strict adherence to a schedule every day. It was easy to implement. The vomiting subsided.
I remembered this incident when I recently came across an article in the “Pediatric News,” dedicated to new treatments for PTSD (Posttraumatic stress disorder) in children. The article was not about new drugs or their combinations for the treatment of this problem.
It was about the healing power of an established routine, customs and rituals.
Take another look at the quote to this chapter. In this wisdom lies the advice to establish good habits.
Indeed, we feel that we know others when we can predict how they act in certain situations. When people change their usual behavior, we say that we “don’t recognize them.” Continue reading